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"The foundation of national morality must be laid in private families. . . . How is it possible that Children can have any just Sense of the sacred Obligations of Morality or Religion if, from their earliest Infancy, they learn their Mothers live in habitual Infidelity to their fathers, and their fathers in as constant Infidelity to their Mothers?" John Adams (Diary, 2 June 1778) Reference: The Works of John Adams, C.F. Adams, ed., vol. 3 (171)

"The root of the kingdom is in the state. The root of the state is in the family. The root of the family is in the person of its head." Mencius 295B.C.

The State’s Goal is to Control the Family - By Gary DeMar ...Because there is no fixed definition of something we call “family,” we are seeing its near-complete disintegration through redefinition. Traditional sexual roles based on creation norms no longer exist. Men are marrying men and women marrying women. Sex roles have become fluid. There are now more than 60 manufactured genders. We are seeing everything redefined and protected by the State to force compliance to every redefinition. ...These counterfeit families attempt to restructure the creational family around an evolving order rather than a biblical model. Whoever defines the family controls it. The State is in the definition business. Transgenderism is growing. Parents are raising their children as “gender neutral theybies.” ...The determiner of new family relationships is civil government (the State), that is becoming less civil as it attacks the biblical family.


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Nothing like a Mother's Love

Fatherhood: "One father is worth more than a hundred schoolmasters."

Undermining God's Design - Creating "Special" Rights (Calling evil good.)


Further Resources

Marriage - Between one man and one woman, the foundation of civil society.

Children - Parents and children - Scriptures and more.

Resources - Parenting and children helpful resources, assistance, protection, safety, etc.

MARRIpedia  - Dr. Pat Fagan, Senior Fellow and Director of the Marriage and Religion Research Institute (MARRI), unveiled a new online encyclopedia of social science, MARRIpedia. MARRIpedia is composed of articles on all matters related to family, marriage, religion and sexuality. This new resource synthesizes and translates the work of myriad social scientists into concise, issue-specific entries that are intelligible to the researcher, student, and lay reader. As research continues to emerge on the intricate relationships of family and religion within society, MARRIpedia will consolidate that research in pertinent entries on an ongoing basis. "The release of MARRIpedia is the culmination of many years of work compiling and analyzing research by some of the world's most respected social scientists," said Fagan. "MARRIpedia, a collation of their work, especially on marriage, family and religion, illustrates God's pattern for human relationships and behavior."

Jesus Came to Divide Families - By Bryan Fischer - If you love Jesus, He’s going to divide your family. He said it would happen, and His words have proven heartbreakingly true. ...Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. And a person’s enemies will be those of his own household (Matthew 10:34-36).

       Quite simply, Jesus is saying that He is the dividing line in every family. Those who are unreservedly dedicated to following Him are on one side, those who reject His offer of salvation and the call to take up His cross are on the other. There is a chasm between them that can grow by the day until it becomes impossible to cross.

       Today this family tension has taken a decidedly political turn. But since positions on the most important social issues of the day (abortion, marriage, sexuality, self-reliance, etc. etc.) are determined by deeply held religious conviction, political divisions in a household are often a proxy for the underlying clashes over Christ, Christianity, and the Bible.

       ...The only way for Christian parents to avoid this eventuality is to betray Christ. “Whoever loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me, and whoever loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me” (Matthew 10:37). If the price of being accepted by a son or a daughter is to reject the truth of Christ, we will have to learn to live without them with an abiding ache in our hearts. 

Luke:21:10-19 (One New Man Bible) - Then He was saying to them, “Heathen will rise against heathen and kingdom against kingdom, there will be great earthquakes and in places famines and pestilences, and horrors and there will be great signs, terrifying portents, from heaven. But before all these things happen they will seize you and they will persecute you, handing you over in public gatherings and jails, leading you before kings and governors because of My name: it will lead you into bearing testimony. However you must place in your hearts not to prepare to defend yourselves: for I shall give you the ability to speak with persuasion and wisdom, which all those set against you will not be able to oppose or to speak against. And you will be given over even by parents and brothers and relatives and friends, and they will put some of you to death: and you will be hated by all because of My name. But not a hair of your head would be lost. In your perseverance you will acquire your eternal lives.”

PARENTING AND MARRIAGE VIDEOS - Dr. James Dobson's 90-Second Commentary Videos

Moms for America Founded in 2004, Moms for America (formerly HomeMakers for America) is national, non-profit 501c3 educational corporation rooted on the principles of liberty and virtue our nation was founded on, and focused on promoting these principles, values, and virtues in the home and family, particularly through the women and mothers of America.

The International Organization for the Family (IOF) Unites and Equips Leaders Worldwide to Promote the Natural Family.


Nothing Like a Mother's Love...

A Praying Mother - By Joseph Parker - For this child I prayed, and the Lord has granted me my petition which I asked of Him. Therefore I also have lent him to the Lord; as long as he lives he shall be lent to the Lord. So they worshiped the Lord there (1 Samuel 1:27-28).


   A faithful Christian mother will seek to carry her children in at least three places:
        In her womb
        In her heart
        In her prayers - faithfully


   In 1 Samuel chapter one, we find a touching, moving, and insightful story of a young wife that wanted to be a mother. She simply had a desire, a dream to be the mother of a little boy. Initially, she cried and fretted over being childless. Then she did something very wise. She took time to go sincerely to God in prayer, and she prayed for the desire of her heart. She let God know that if He would give her a son, she would dedicate his life back to Him. God heard her prayer and He gave her that which she requested. He gave her a son. Hannah then kept her word. She dedicated her son back to God.
   This short yet powerful story of a young wife and mother named Hannah has many life lessons in it. One of the very important lessons is that there is great power in the prayers of a Christian mother for and over her children. It is wise and normal for a Christian mother to pray for her child before conception, while the child is in the womb, when the child is born, when she or he is a toddler, when the child is in elementary school, middle school, high school, and when she or he is in college. Don’t make the big mistake of thinking that your job is over when they graduate from high school or college though. You are just getting started!
   When is a mother’s job of praying for her child over? When one of you goes to heaven. So be mindful that the job of praying for your children is a lifelong responsibility. And, of course, no one can pray for your children like you can!


A Mother’s Blanket of Prayer
When you were young, and it was cold outside
With a blanket
I covered you with care
Now that you are older
And the world is much colder
I now cover you with a blanket of prayer.
Author Unknown

 

Life, Pregnancy, and Motherhood - By Joseph Parker - Three unique stories of life, pregnancy, and motherhood are found in the Word of God under very unique and interesting circumstances. Hannah, Elizabeth, and Mary are three women from the Old or New Testaments of the Bible who each became mothers through unique circumstances. ...A question that one might ask is this: Why does any woman wish to be a mother? Mothers typically have to give so much of themselves to one or more children. They will typically sacrifice much of their time, strength, and attention on them. ...As we take time to pray for and honor our mothers during this season, let’s also take time to honor God who gave us mothers. And may we also recognize, honor, and cherish the gifts God has entrusted to them: life, pregnancy, and motherhood.

 

Secrets (good and bad) no one is telling about motherhood - By Suzanne Venker - Way, way back in 2002 I wrote a book about the domino effect that occurs when women try to raise children, babies and toddlers in particular, and pursue full-time career simultaneously. The subtitle of the book (which has since been re-released as "The Two-Income Trap: Why Parents Are Choosing to Stay Home") was "Why Children and Most Careers Just Don't Mix," and its overall message was that the needs and demands of children are so great that to try and meet those needs and demands after being spent from a day at the office is fruitless.

   What's more, it yanks the joy of motherhood right out of you. I wrote that book to help women who've been taught to map out their futures without giving any thought at all to how their lives will change down the road when they become mothers. Not only are women surprised to find out how taxing motherhood is, they don't anticipate how much they'd want to be with their babies.

...In previous generations, women embraced this transformation and viewed marriage and family not just as the center of their lives but as the purpose of life. Modern women, by contrast, view a career as their life's purpose and assume they can squeeze marriage and family in around this otherwise more pressing endeavor - if they squeeze it in at all.

   The problem with this plan is that by the time the average woman hits 30, the likelihood of her deciding that marriage and motherhood, not career, is the most important thing in her life is astronomically high. Too many women needlessly wind up in a quandary when they become mothers. Many are shocked to discover that what they thought was important before they had children feels utterly irrelevant afterward.

 

You can't put a price tag on the priceless contributions mothers make to the lives and development of their children. Motherhood has often been trivialized by those who suggest that women who choose to stay home with their children are somehow settling for less. They wrongly believe a mother's care is replaceable. Those with this view are not in step with the views of the majority of Americans. A 1998 poll found that the majority of Americans rate care by a child's mother as the single most desirable form of care for pre-school children. In a 2000 poll, 71 percent of parents surveyed believed they should rely on day care only if they had no other option. The public is on to something. Childcare, and the government's role in providing it, will soon be at the forefront of the debate over welfare reform. We would all do well to remember the old saying, "the hand that rocks the cradle rules the nation." FRC May, 10, 2002

A study by Brown University has found that children who come home to an empty house often get into a lot of trouble -- and while that information may not surprise many people, some may find the depth of the problem quite startling. About a third of the 10- to 14-year-olds studied were into anything from drug abuse to stealing when coming home to an empty house. Dr. Allan Josephson, professor of child psychiatry at the University of Louisville, tells Family News In Focus that family finances often dictate the "home alone" situation -- but sometimes it is by choice. "There's a cost to being a parent," he says, "and a lot of families might be trying to buy a nicer car and their kids are running the risk of becoming delinquent. That's something that parents have trouble hearing, that kids don't raise themselves." Moms in the workforce were just 1 in 3 in 1950. Now, by necessity or by choice, that number is approaching 80%. AgapePress.org NEWS BRIEFS. 

Proverbs 31:
1. The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.
2  What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows?
3  Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroys kings.
4  It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; nor for princes strong drink:
5  Lest they drink, and forget the law, and pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted.
6  Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.
7  Let him drink, and forget his poverty, and remember his misery no more.
8  Open thy mouth for the dumb in the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction.
9  Open thy mouth, judge righteously, and plead the cause of the poor and needy.
10  Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11  The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12  She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13  She seeks wool, and flax, and works willingly with her hands.
14  She is like the merchants' ships; she brings her food from afar.
15  She rises also while it is yet night, and gives meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16  She considers a field, and buys it: with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
17  She girds her loins with strength, and strengthens her arms.
18  She perceives that her merchandise is good: her candle goes not out by night.
19  She lays her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20  She stretches out her hand to the poor; yea, she reaches forth her hands to the needy.
21  She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22  She makes herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23  Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.
24  She makes fine linen, and sells it; and delivers girdles unto the merchant.
25  Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26  She opens her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27  She looks well to the ways of her household, and eats not the bread of idleness.
28  Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.
29  Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excels them all.
30  Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
31  Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

Being a Mom Does Not Make One a Mother By David Jolly - ...So, what is the difference between a mom and mother? It’s easy to be a mom. All one has to do is have sex and get pregnant. But being a mother requires so much more. One of the problems facing America today is that the number of moms is increasing while the number of mothers is decreasing.
   A mother loves her children by doing for them rather than forcing them to do for her. A mother sacrifices her time and so much more for her children, instead of taking from the children all she can.
   A mother loses sleep over a sick child instead of complaining how the sick child has exhausted her.
   A mother teaches her children how to do things so that they can do them when they become an adult, but not to make them a slave to the mom.
   A mother trains her children for the day they get married and have a family of their own whereas a mom only trains her children to serve her. In the case of the two sisters, the mom has told her teenaged daughter that she can never move out because she needs her to take care of her.
   A mother trains up her children in the way of the Lord whereas a mom doesn’t.
   A mother prays for her children but mom doesn’t.
   A mother devotes herself to raising godly children, but a mom doesn’t.


"One father is worth more than a hundred schoolmasters."  --George Herbert

"In the time when I was growing up, when you said the word 'man,' it had meaning. You knew what people meant. And men came out of the womb designed to be warriors. I'm not talking about going out with baseball bats and AR-15s. But I'm talking about having a cause. As a warrior, you have a cause that you're willing to sacrifice for. You may even have to die for. [Now], where we're challenging men most is spiritually." ..."If families are falling apart, it's because men are suffering. Men are hurting. It's not just that they're walking away from their families. It's that they're not being the fathers they're meant to be." ..."Our adversary is like a roaring lion, seeking whom he might devour...." (1 Peter 5:8) --Lt. General Jerry Boykin (U.S. Army-Ret.)

On Father's Day, 1988, President Ronald Reagan stated: "Children, vulnerable and dependent, desperately need security, and it has ever been a duty and a joy of fatherhood to offer it. Being a father requires strength in many ways...and more than a little courage...to persevere, to fight discouragement, and to keep working for the family. In that strength, and with God's grace, fathers find the patience to teach, the fortitude to provide, the compassion to comfort, and the mercy to forgive. All of this is to say that they find the strength to love their wives and children selflessly...Let us each take this occasion to express our thanks and affection to our fathers, whether we can do so in person or in prayer."

One-page Bible study on fatherhood (BibleTruths.net)


“You (fathers) shall teach (my words) to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise” (Deuteronomy 6:7).

“Fathers...bring them (your children) up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” (Ephesians 6:4).

 

"Fathers linked to healthy families"... (PatriotPost.us) we wrote about how important fathers are in the lives of their children, in part, by providing statistics on the woes of children who live apart from their fathers. Inevitably we evoke the ire of a few divorced men whose efforts to be good fathers is undermined at every turn by vindictive x-wives. To that end, we included the following notice in the essay: "Memo to divorced dads and assorted victims of feminist rage and unfair family courts: Please hold your mail, we know that women file almost 70 percent of divorces, most without any claim of abandonment, infidelity or abuse."

Needless to say, a few or our readers who fall in the latter category of divorced men, insisted on chastising us. Augusta, Georgia writes, "Regardless of your instruction that victims of unfair family law remain silent, I find your focus on father 'abandonment' on Father's Day abhorrent. The vast majority of fathers do not abandon their children after divorce. Rather, they are forced away from them by a cabal of politicians, lawyers, judges, and vengeful ex-wives who collaborate to deny the children access to their fathers on a routine basis. Fathers who do not pay child support are labeled 'deadbeats' despite the fact that most arrearages are the result of involuntary unemployment, disability, or similar circumstances. But mothers who deny visitation, relocate to sever contact, or deliberately poison the children against their own fathers are rarely, if ever, even sanctioned, much less punished."

Father's Day Encouragement: 15 Tips to Leave a Lasting Legacy  - By Larry Tomczak - ...Amidst today's cultural counterfeits regarding manhood—macho man, marshmallow man and mixed-up man—God wants real men of steel and velvet. Our model is Jesus! Unfortunately the person of Jesus in artwork often conjures up images of a poker-faced, wimpy killjoy who never smiled, appeared somewhat emaciated and had chubby little cherubs floating about his haloed head. This meek, mild, milquetoast image of Jesus is a distortion of the Son of God. Although we aren't told much about the appearance of Jesus in scripture, there's evidence He not only embodied character traits of servanthood, meekness, (not weakness), compassion and generosity but physical strength as well. Imagine what 20 years of carpentry work did for His muscular development. He walked miles in the grueling sun and then ministered to crowds of thousands, addressing them without amplification. Visualize Jesus grabbing a whip, overturning tables and driving out money-changers from the temple. Picture those "boys on the dock," burly fishermen dropping their nets to follow Him. Use your sanctified imagination to ponder His horrific flogging and enduring the infamous crucifixion depicted vividly in Mel Gibson's Passion of the Christ.

   ...Success in marriage and family does not come from good intentions but deliberate decisions based on the Word of God. Contrary to cultural foolishness, God calls us to adhere to scripture. "For then you will make your way successful, and you will be wise" (Josh. 1:8b).

   1. Commit to the practice of prayer for your children daily.

   2. Remain in a posture of faith no matter what comes your way.

   3. Endeavor to be led by the Spirit in line with the Word of God.

   4. Obey God's Word in everything, being quick to repent for laziness, compromise or disobedience.

   5. Focus more on building character than bringing creature comforts.

   6. Reinforce New Testament Christianity by meaningful church involvement, service and support.

   7. Be vigilant monitoring all areas of media and relational influence affecting your children (association brings assimilation).

   8. Celebrate family Scripture study but keep it meaningful, relevant and short!

   9. Communicate love and encouragement consistently, knowing rules without relationship can foster rebellion.

   10. Schedule regular family fun times to make memories and keep their emotional tanks full!

   11. Honor Christian education reinforcing values taught at home.

   12. Be intentional with consistent family mealtimes to enhance communication and stay current.

   13. Plan individual "date times" and mission trips for your children.

   14. Cultivate a culture of honor regarding spouses, grandparents, widows and orphans, plus church and civic leaders.

   15. Celebrate with creativity life's seasons, passages and family traditions.

   ...Here's the deal: As we witness the decline of the nuclear family in society, God is raising up beautiful examples of what life can be like in the kingdom of God under the benevolent reign of good King Jesus! Fathers and mothers are a team, but we dads should lead the way to excellence so we leave a legacy that lasts for the glory of God!

You can't outsource fatherhood! By Mark Alexander - Consider these sobering statistics from the Centers for Disease Control, Department of Justice, Department of Health and Human Services and the Bureau of the Census: Children who live apart from their fathers will account for 40 percent of incarcerated adults, 63 percent of teen suicides, 70 percent of juveniles in state-operated institutions, 71 percent of high-school dropouts, 75 percent of children in chemical-abuse centers, 80 percent of rapists, 85 percent of youths in prison, 85 percent of children who exhibit behavioral disorders, and 90 percent of homeless and runaway children. About eight percent of children in married-couple homes live at or below poverty level, while almost 40 percent of children in homes without fathers live below poverty level. The latter group risks a much higher incidence of serious child abuse or neglect. Notably, the most common and severe wounds inflicted upon children are not necessarily physical. Children internalize emotional abuse and rejection, particularly rejection by their family of origin, parental separation or divorce, or dissociation from a chemically dependent or emotionally disabled parent.

Absentee Dads - A National Crisis?
By Sharon Hughes (June 2005)

Our nation just celebrated Father's Day. For many the day serves as a time for getting together with dad and granddad to honor them in some special way. For others the day serves as a painful reminder of the absence of a loving father in their lives.

Being a father can be one of the most rewarding and one of the toughest jobs on earth...and not everyone gets it right. Juggling work and family responsibilities takes some deliberate effort. President George W. Bush has determined to make committed, responsible fatherhood a national priority. Is this necessary? Consider ...

43% of U.S. children live without their father
90% of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
71% of pregnant teenagers lack a father in their lives
85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes
71% of high school dropouts come from homes without a father present
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.
90% of adolescent repeat arsonists live without a father
75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes
70% of juveniles in state operated institutions have no father

According to Fathers.com ...

Teen girls from mother-only families are more likely to become depressed
Children from mother-only families do less well on standardized school tests
Teens from mother-only homes are more sexually active, and girls are more likely to become single-parent mothers
Teens in mother-only homes are more susceptible to peer pressure
Young adults who grew up in mother-only homes had a higher high school drop out rate

The bottom line is clear. Kids suffer without dad in the house, or from dad not being around enough to make a difference. If we were talking about any other issue, with these percentages we would call it a national crisis.

The Bush Administration has said about the importance of dads, "The presence of two committed, involved parents contributes directly to better school performance, reduced substance abuse, less crime and delinquency, fewer emotional and other behavioral problems, less risk of abuse or neglect, and lower risk of teen suicide. The research is clear: fathers factor significantly in the lives of their children. There is simply no substitute for the love, involvement, and commitment of a responsible father."

You may be a wonderful father, or had one, but there are thousands of kids today who don't. I want to encourage the men to be a father to the fatherless, which will not only have an impact on a child's life for the rest of his life which is good cause enough, but will as well impact our nation for good as the next generation steps into the role of leading in our country.

The Consequences of Fatherlessness (Fathers.com)

1. Poverty - Children in father-absent homes are five times more likely to be poor. In
2002, 7.8% of children in married-couple families were living in poverty,
compared to 38.4% of children in female-householder families.

2. Drug and Alcohol Abuse ...

3. Physical and Emotional Health ...

4. Educational Achievement ...

5. Crime ...

6. Sexual Activity and Teen Pregnancy ...

The Importance of Fathers in Children's Lives


Maas. Chief Justice MarshallCreating "Special" Rights

 "Woe to those who call evil good and good evil" (Isaiah 5:20).

If Congress passes "special" Rights, they will amend Title 1 of the United States Code, to eliminate any Federal policy on the definition of marriage. (Sponsored by Homosexual Congressman Barney Frank of Massachusetts, who once ran a homosexual prostitution ring out of his home.) and also amend the 1964 Civil Rights Act giving "Special Rights" to homosexuals, by forcing every organization is America, Churches, Day Care Centers, Nursing Homes, Schools, etc. to hire gays and lesbians as teachers, coaches, doctors, etc. Ted Kennedy's S.1284 promotes, endorses, and advocates the very life style that killed Jeffrey Curley!   (YouTube Video)

Underminging the family undermines God's foundationUndermining the family undermines God's foundation. Why the evil one is attacking and undermining God's foundation of the human race.

Nikolai Lenin - "Destroy the family, and the society will collapse." 

Jeremiah Denton - "The family is the engine that drives civilization. Throughout history, those cultures that have failed to found their rules and attitudes of society on the central importance of the family unit have decayed and disintegrated."

Traditional Families in Trouble, Index Shows  (December 2010) A family index released Wednesday shows that more than half of American youth are growing up in families torn apart by divorce, separation and single parenthood. ...a study by the Marriage and Religion Research Institute reveals that 55 percent of America teenagers are living in non-traditional family structures marred by divorce, separation or unmarried parents. By comparison, 45 percent of young adults live in intact families where the biological parents are married to one another since before or around the time of their child's birth. The "Index of Belonging and Rejection" also reports that African-American and Native American teens are more likely than teens of other races and ethnicities to come up in a broken family. Fewer than one in four American Indian and Alaskan Native adolescents (24 percent) have lived with married biological parents throughout childhood. African-American teens are least likely to live in an intact family. Fewer than one in five (17 percent) live with married parents. At 62 percent, Asian-American teens are most likely to live with wedded, biological parents. Caucasian teens follow close behind at 54 percent. Lead researcher Pat Fagan said the data displays a change in Americans concept of family structure. "American society is dysfunctional, characterized by a faulty understanding of the male-female relationship," reflected Fagan. ...

The Genesis 3 Key to End the War in Your Home - By J.D. KING - Conflict and stress between men and women began with the fall of Adam and Eve. Yet God subtly redefined roles to set a solid foundation for His family. Egregious things transpired in the Garden of Eden centuries ago. Sin ensnared the world, undermining the beauty and purposes of God. I don't think most people comprehend all that unraveled.
   When God spoke to the woman after the fall, He revealed that there was now an inherent conflict between her and her husband. He said, "Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you" (Gen. 3:16b). The ravages of sin had sparked a tragic war in the home. People who pledged to love each other would ultimately discover deep conflict and contention. What is implied in this passage is that, throughout history, wives will endeavor to control, but, because of their husband's brute strength and temperament, they will not prevail. In many cases, men will take advantage of circumstances in terribly self-centered ways. An honest perusal of history confirms that women have often been marginalized and exploited. Yet we should note that this was never God's intention. This was the tragic outworking of deception and sin, not the purposes of the Lord. 
   Whispers of Deliverance - Moreover, within this broader narrative, there are whispers of deliverance. There are subtle allusions to how peace could be found, if one cares to look. Delving a little deeper, we see underlying redemptive strategies in God's interchange with Adam. He says: "Cursed is the ground on account of you; in hard labor you will eat of it all the days of your life. Thorns and thistles it will bring forth for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your face you will eat bread until you return to the ground" (Gen. 3:17c-19a). It's easy to overlook what's actually being articulated. Most interpret this passage to mean that, because of the curse, men will have to agonize and travail to bring home a paycheck. But the Bible is saying much more than this.
   What the inspired text is suggesting is that men are uniquely positioned to take on the difficulties and conflicts of life. Because of their physical stature and temperament, men are able to carry duress and problems. Instead of exerting anger and violence, a righteous man "swallows it up" in acts of sacrificial love. In other words, a man allows himself to be a suffering servant for his family. He becomes a flawed reflection, but a reflection nonetheless, of the Messiah. From the moment sin entered the world, there was a war going on in the home. However, the pathway to peace is not as difficult as many have been led to believe.
   J.D. King, director of the World Revival Network and co-pastor at World Revival Church, is writing Regeneration: Healing in the History of Christianity. King is a sought-after speaker, writer and author. 

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