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o How To Betray Your Wife, Destroy Her Self-Worth, And Implode Your Marriage In One Easy Step  - By Matt Walsh - I maintain, porn or no porn, that husbands should still be treated with respect in their homes. But that does not justify porn, nor does it mitigate the impact it has on a marriage. A man who laughs at the very idea that he may be hurting his wife by watching porn only proves the point.

   ...But she is not crazy. Her husband is turning — not just once, by the way, but every day — to other women to satisfy his sexual urges. He is cheating on her. There is no nuance to it. She’s right: it’s adultery.

   ...The whole activity is entirely selfish, of course. His wife does not exist while he watches porn. Neither do his kids. He blots them out of his mind as he plunges into the internet’s darkest recesses, looking to get his fix in increasingly depraved and exotic ways. He shrugs and yawns at his own unfaithfulness, demanding, almost self-righteously, that his wife just accept this “hobby” of his. "It's just porn," he says.

   ...Meanwhile, as it erodes the bonds of trust that keep your marriage together, porn also ruins your wife's self-worth. It’s not hard to see why this happens. A woman will obviously begin to feel inadequate if her husband would dredge the depths of PornHub, searching desperately for literally any woman but his wife to satisfy his urges, rather than enjoy her.

   ...And, as porn causes a wife to feel less attractive to her husband, it also makes her husband less attractive to her. Porn emasculates, and no woman desires an emasculated man. Porn is passive and self-involved — the exact opposite of masculine. A wife finds her husband most desirable when he is doing things, making himself useful, serving, protecting, providing for his family.

 

o 'One Million Men Porn Free' Pastor: You Forget About God, Family When Addicted to Porn To combat the addiction to pornography, Pastor Jay Dennis of First Baptist Church at the Mall in Lakeland, Fla., created his own program, "One Million Men Porn Free," because he wasn't able to find resource materials that he could use to defeat the devastating effects the lure of pornography had on members of his church. ...Dennis hopes the "Join 1 Million Men" program will ultimately strengthen churches by helping pastors get the subject of pornography out in the open so they can work on rebuilding families and marriages.

   ...He also said that overcoming pornography is not a one-time, sign-a-card, make-a-commitment kind of thing. "Overcoming involves repentance, accountability, responsibility, a daily commitment to spiritual disciplines and community. In Join 1 Million Men (formerly called 1 Million Men Porn Free), the commitment involves a process, not just a signature on a card." Dennis added that the only way to overcome an addiction to pornography is through the power of the resurrected Savior, Jesus Christ. He's currently writing a book that will give advice to Christian women on what they should do if their husbands are viewing pornography.    

 

o How women made porn fashionable By Patrick Wanis - Porn is becoming a new ideal and value for young girls. And women are responsible. Women are consuming and endorsing porn such as ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ -- a book recognized as ‘mommy porn.’ Poorly written, it is not a how-to-manual and it’s not poetic erotica. Pulp/romance novels transformed into a new genre embracing porn as literature - explicitly sexual scenes featuring bondage/discipline, dominance/submission and sadism/masochism. More than 20 million copies have sold in the US (40 million worldwide), and it is yet another example of the way porn is becoming more than socially acceptable amongst women. Moreover, it is becoming an aspirational target for women.


...Porn could never have become mainstream and socially acceptable without the support and endorsement by women. In human behavior, we call this ‘the law of frequency’ -- the more often two things are linked, the more powerful that association becomes until they become inseparable. And women and the media have linked consuming porn or behaving like a porn actress with instant money, fame, power, glamour, prestige, respectability and social acceptability. In other words, if you become a porn actress or behave like one, you will triumph with all of these things.

 

...Accordingly, girls are more fascinated and driven by the desire to become famous than they are to become an engineer, doctor or scientist: Kim Kardashian has 14 million followers on Twitter.Thus, women are creating new values and morality promoting money, power and glamour as more important than intelligence, achievement, motherhood or contribution. Studies reveal that female college students are more narcissistic than males. And teenage girls are now also becoming fans of porn actors such as 26-year-old James Deen.

 

...But, women are failing to realize the dangers of falling for porn or promoting porn as the new fashionable profession and path to fame, riches and glory. This is the antithesis of female empowerment as MTV, Kim Kardashian and Octomom are teaching young girls to gain power over men by using sex.  Women have now created false empty idols and have lost their real sense of self-worth, value and significance, replacing it with fleeting pseudo-power and artificial values and relationships, leaving them feeling unfulfilled and unsatisfied.

 

...Pornography is much more than a moral or social issue. Renowned physicist, psychiatrist, and psychoanalyst Dr. Jeffrey Satinover says porn is “a form of heroin, hundred times more powerful than before.” Forensic psychologist, M. Douglas Reed and renowned pharmacologist Candace Pert reveal that pornography is like a drug that triggers the brain to release a psychopharmacological flood of “epinephrine, testosterone, endorphins (endogenous morphine), oxytocin, dopamine, serotonin, and phenyethylamine,” which can lead to addiction and various other behavioral disorders.  

 

...Bottom line: porn does not promote love or sex but rather cruelty and hatred to women, and so, while women continue to endorse and make porn fashionable or a new ideal, they are foolishly robbing themselves and undermining all of the positive strides and triumphs they have made in their quest for equality.

o Pornography - Quitting the habit Charlie Butts - OneNewsNow - The damage from pornography addiction runs deep, but one author has found freedom through Christ.

Author and speaker Jarrod Jones has written a book called 13 Ways to Ruin Your Life. In his travels, he has been amazed at the number of Christians who admit to having a problem with pornography.

"Messages have bombarded them, as well the temptations of sexual sin have come upon them so powerfully," he notes. "Through the testimonies they share with me, I have been shocked at how many have felt the openness to share with me their struggle with pornography -- I'm talking from ministers to married men, businessmen, men in ministry, young men."

Jones personally struggled through the damaging effects of pornography addiction and the subsequent loss of a relationship. He calls the Bible a starting place and the central focus of recovery. "Proverbs 7, which deals with watching a young man falling into sexual sin and what it's going to cost him, and it's going to ruin his life," he explains.

13 Ways is not a tell-all book, but Jones uses his personal experiences to illustrate how Christ can change a person. "With those battles in my life and those experiences, I discovered that...Jesus began changing [those desires] because of his Spirit within me," he adds. "My desires were to be more about him, and with my mind, with my eyes, with my ears, with my body, and to pursue him in that way."

Pornography, according to Jones, is no easy addiction to shake, but he says Christ can break the chains of sin. His book can be purchased at 13WaystoRuinYourLife.com, or it can be downloaded for free.

o Pornography Harms - The National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) is the leading national organization addressing the public health crisis of pornography and exposing the links between all forms of sexual exploitation. NCOSE embraces a mission to defend human dignity and to oppose sexual exploitation.  To this end, NCOSE operates on the cutting edge of policy activism to combat corporate and government policies that foster exploitation, to advance public education and empowerment, and to foster united action through leading the international Coalition to End Sexual Exploitation. The National Center on Sexual Exploitation, formerly known as Morality in Media, was founded in 1962 in order to address the connections between pornography and sex trafficking, violence against women and children, harms to children, addiction, the breakdown of the family and more. In 2015 NCOSE established a Law Center to be the legal arm and counsel of the anti-sexual exploitation movement, with emphases in obscenity, sex trafficking, and prostitution law.

o 9 Ways to Fight The Temptation of Pornography BJ Stockman, My earlier post “7 Negative Effects of Porn” concentrated on the harmful psychological and sociological effects of pornography, and this post will focus on a biblical and grace-centered way to resist the temptation to view porn. Primarily this post is aimed at men, but I hope that there is some help here for the growing number of women who are addicted to porn and I hope that more Christian women will write on this hidden issue.  


Pedophilia and Homosexuality
The Washington Post
June 29, 2002

A June 24 Metro article relates the fears of homosexuals who feel they are being unfairly linked to the pedophilia scandal in the Catholic Church.

In fact, the real scandal is that the press has failed to adequately investigate the link between homosexuality and child sexual abuse.  The Family Research Council has just released a comprehensive report on the subject, which connects the dots.  The report, titled "Homosexuality and Child Sexual Abuse," brings to light some significant findings:

* Pedophiles are invariably males: A report by the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children states: "In both clinical and non-clinical samples, the vast majority of offenders are male." The book "Sexual Offending Against Children" reports that only 12 of 3,000 incarcerated pedophiles in England were women.

* Significant numbers of victims are males: A study of 457 male sex offenders against children in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy found that "approximately one-third of these sexual offenders directed their sexual activity against males."

* Homosexuals comprise less than 3 percent of the population, not "8 to 10 percent" as your article reported. A recent study in Demography estimates the number of exclusive male homosexuals in the general population at 2.5 percent, and the number of exclusive lesbians at 1.4
percent.

* Homosexuals are over-represented in child sex offenses: Individuals from the 1 to 3 percent of the population that is sexually attracted to the same sex are committing up to one-third of the sex crimes against children.  A study in the Journal of Sex Research found that although heterosexuals outnumber homosexuals by a ratio of at least 20 to 1, homosexual pedophiles commit about one-third of the total number of child sex offenses.

The evidence shows a direct correlation between homosexuality and pedophilia.  Your story should have included such evidence, because it affects not just the Catholic Church but all those concerned with shielding children from sexual abuse.

Timothy J. Dailey - The writer is a senior fellow for culture studies at the Family Research Council.


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