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Hope For Homosexuals
And resources for parents and family members

If the evil one wants to undermine God, he must attack God's favored design of marriage between one man and one woman and subsequently God's design for family which is the foundation for a civil society?

"There is no such thing as 'a homosexual.' Homosexuality is not what you are. It's what you do." Stephen Bennett

Redeemed!10 Ways to Get Out of the Gay Life, If You Want Out by Charlene E. Cothran, Venus Magazine Publisher


Resources for homosexuals


 

People Can Change

Survey Reveals Why Some 'Same Sex Attracted' Men Seek Change - MEDIA ADVISORY, July 13 /Christian Newswire/ -- Why would anyone with homosexual attractions try to “go straight”? According to conventional wisdom, the answer is inevitably “internalized homophobia” or societal pressure.

But a new survey of almost 200 same-sex-attracted men who are pursuing change paints a very different picture: Out of 18 possible motivations listed in the survey, outside pressure was the least frequently cited motivating factor reported by the 189 survey respondents.

The most frequently cited motivation was a desire to heal emotional hurts that respondents believe contributed to their same-sex attractions (SSA) to begin with.

The desire to heal emotional pain was cited as a major motivator by 77% of respondents, compared to 22% who identified “outside pressure” as a major motivator. In fact, just 3% identified outside pressure as one of the three main reasons they were seeking change.

The survey was conducted by People Can Change, a non-profit, non-religious self-help organization of men who have overcome unwanted homosexual attractions and who now support others who seek similar change.

On average, each respondent identified 14 of the 18 factors as contributing to their desire to change. Other factors identified as major motivators include:

personal spirituality – 68% desire for wife and children – 66% religious teachings – 63% desire for nonsexual male friendships – 63% conscience – 63% expectation of unhappiness in gay life – 63%.

Richard Wyler, a professional life coach who is the founder and executive director of People Can Change, summarized, “This survey indicates that same-sex- attracted men who seek change may be less influenced by outside pressure or shame than is generally assumed. Rather, they are more often motivated by their personal spirituality, deeply held values and beliefs, a desire to have a family, and a desire to heal emotional pain.”

The current survey didn’t explore perceived “root causes,” but a 2004 survey by People Can Change found that men seeking to overcome SSA most frequently perceived the root causes of their own attractions to be:

a history of father-son relationship problems, a history of problems relating with male peers, unhealthy mother-son relationships, a history of sexual abuse, and individual personality traits.

Complete summaries of both surveys are available at www.peoplecanchange.com.

Based in Virginia, People Can Change offers experiential healing retreats, personal coaching, an educational web site and online support groups.


Resources for parents and family members of homosexuals

PFOX (Parents and Friends of Ex-Gays & Gays) is aware of the following resources for those struggling with unwanted same sex attractions, and for their families and friends:

If you are a parent, sibling, or friend of someone in homosexuality, email  PFOX_Coordinator@hotmail.com to see if there is a local PFOX chapter in your area or if you would like to start a chapter where none is available.  PFOX chapters hold regular group support meetings. 

Want to volunteer for PFOX and work to advance the ex-gay community?  Send an email to: pfox_exgays@hotmail.com  and ask for the current list of volunteer projects.

PFOX sponsors an e-mail discussion group at Yahoo Groups at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ex-gay .   It is comprised of parents, friends, and spouses of strugglers, as well as ex-gays.  You can just read the email postings or join in the discussion at any time with your particular day to day hopes and struggles.  If you would like to join, send a blank e-mail to:  ex-gay-subscribe@yahoogroups.com

PFOX maintains an ex-gay speakers bureau for local events, schools, conferences and church engagements.  Whether you are looking to address the origin of homosexuality, or an encouraging testimony of overcoming homosexuality, PFOX can help.  Email pfox_exgays@hotmail.com for speaking and travel fees.


Homosexual Urban Legends This informational service is designed to provide reporters, editors, and other opinion leaders with accurate information on the relationship between homosexuality and the molestation of children. It will also expose and debunk dozens of factually inaccurate urban legends created by homosexual activist groups to promote their political and social agenda.


"Jesus Never Said Anything About Homosexuality, Did He?"
And "Against Nature" & "Without Excuse"

Jesus said: Have you not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they two shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder. Matthew 19:4-6

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Genesis 2:24

It doesn't say, that a man could leave his father and father, and cleave to his husband (goes against nature), and be fruitful (impossible).


Documentary: "I Do Exist"  - Schools, colleges and churches all over the country will be showing a new documentary that concerns transformation in the lives of people who have gone from gay identified to straight during the weekend of October 8-11 in response to National Coming Out Day activities on October 11.  "The  documentary  'I Do Exist'  features people who have a story to tell that is not often heard. Many in our country are skeptical that people who once identified as homosexual can make profound transformations. This 52-minute film introduces the audience to five such people along with expert commentary," said  producer Warren Throckmorton , Ph.D.  Also, featured in the film is Dr. Robert Spitzer, from Columbia University. Dr. Spitzer is well known for his research in diagnosis and sexual orientation. Dr. Spitzer is also renowned for his role in removing homosexuality from the list of disorders published by the American Psychiatric Association in 1973. One of the former homosexuals was once featured in an award winning film as a gay man. Noe Gutierrez was in the video It's Elementary explaining what being gay was like to middle school children. Mr. Gutierrez has since become heterosexual and talks about his process of transition on the video . The purpose of the event is to raise awareness and encourage discussion concerning the topic of change in sexual identity. October 11 is National Coming Out Day when the gay political group, the Human Rights Campaign, broadcasts the message that the only healthy response to same sex attractions is to come out and identify as homosexual. The film I Do Exist gives the narratives of five people who have chosen a different path, one that involves a profound personal transformation. Reproducible materials are available for those groups that use the contact information below to request it. The video is being shown in churches, libraries, colleges, and home showings all over the country. "Currently, we have over 40 venues scheduled and are adding more daily," said Throckmorton. Organizations and individuals wanting to take part and host a showing are encouraged to contact Dr. Throckmorton at ewthrockmorton@gcc.edu or 724-458-3787. For more information on the video, I Do Exist, go to www.idoexist.net. Warren Throckmorton, PhD www.drthrockmorton.com


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