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"Natural" Family
Father, Mother, Children

God's favored design and foundation of His creation: Marriage and family.

For the children are not obligated to store up for the parents, but the parents for the children.  2 Corinthians 12:14b (PNT) 

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Underminging the family undermines God's foundationUndermining the family undermines God's foundation. Why the evil one is attacking and undermining God's foundation of the human race.

Nikolai Lenin - "Destroy the family, and the society will collapse." 

Jeremiah Denton - "The family is the engine that drives civilization. Throughout history, those cultures that have failed to found their rules and attitudes of society on the central importance of the family unit have decayed and disintegrated."

Traditional Families in Trouble, Index Shows  (December 2010) A family index released Wednesday shows that more than half of American youth are growing up in families torn apart by divorce, separation and single parenthood. ...a study by the Marriage and Religion Research Institute reveals that 55 percent of America teenagers are living in non-traditional family structures marred by divorce, separation or unmarried parents. By comparison, 45 percent of young adults live in intact families where the biological parents are married to one another since before or around the time of their child's birth. The "Index of Belonging and Rejection" also reports that African-American and Native American teens are more likely than teens of other races and ethnicities to come up in a broken family. Fewer than one in four American Indian and Alaskan Native adolescents (24 percent) have lived with married biological parents throughout childhood. African-American teens are least likely to live in an intact family. Fewer than one in five (17 percent) live with married parents. At 62 percent, Asian-American teens are most likely to live with wedded, biological parents. Caucasian teens follow close behind at 54 percent. Lead researcher Pat Fagan said the data displays a change in Americans concept of family structure. "American society is dysfunctional, characterized by a faulty understanding of the male-female relationship," reflected Fagan. ...

"When home ties are loosened; when men and women cease to regard a worthy family life, with all its duties fully performed, and all its responsibilities lived up to, as the life best worth living; then evil days for the commonwealth are at hand." Theodore Roosevelt

A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD. Proverbs 19:13-14

The National Health Service in Scotland now forbids doctors and nurses to use the words "father" or "mother" when dealing with patients. They are also forbidden to use the words "husband" or "wife" because a homosexual might be in the room and these words could offend them. Only neutral words such as "parents" or "guardians" can be used. Don't think this deliberate assault on the family will stop at our borders. The goal of homosexual activists and their liberal counterparts is to eliminate the family and create a "gender free" society. Billionaire George Soros has several organizations, some of which receive federal funds, working to eliminate "gender" from use in our society. Senator Hillary Clinton is updating her book, "It Takes a Village" for her presidential campaign. The thesis of the book is simple: Families are outmoded and it takes the village (government) to raise children. (Click here for Human Events story) Religious Freedom Coalition December 23, 2006

Further Resources

  • Marriage - Between one man and one woman, the foundation of civil society.

  • Children - Parents and children - Scriptures and more.

  • Resources - Parenting and children helpful resources, assistance, protection, safety, etc.

  • Below: Creating "Special" Rights (Calling evil good.)

  • Below: Mothers and Fathers (Insight and Resources)

  • The Family Project is a sharing community whose primary goal is to capture the richness of the large family experience for cultural posterity before it fades away all together.  Do you know that a quarter of the baby boomers - an 17.5 million people - grew up in large families?  Today fewer than 6 million children of America's 85 million children are growing up in large families, a decline of over 300% in less than 40 years.

  • MARRIpedia  - Dr. Pat Fagan, Senior Fellow and Director of the Marriage and Religion Research Institute (MARRI), unveiled a new online encyclopedia of social science, MARRIpedia. MARRIpedia is composed of articles on all matters related to family, marriage, religion and sexuality. This new resource synthesizes and translates the work of myriad social scientists into concise, issue-specific entries that are intelligible to the researcher, student, and lay reader. As research continues to emerge on the intricate relationships of family and religion within society, MARRIpedia will consolidate that research in pertinent entries on an ongoing basis. "The release of MARRIpedia is the culmination of many years of work compiling and analyzing research by some of the world's most respected social scientists," said Fagan. "MARRIpedia, a collation of their work, especially on marriage, family and religion, illustrates God's pattern for human relationships and behavior."

"The root of the kingdom is in the state. The root of the state is in the family. The root of the family is in the person of its head." Mencius 295B.C.

"The foundation of national morality must be laid in private families. . . . How is it possible that Children can have any just Sense of the sacred Obligations of Morality or Religion if, from their earliest Infancy, they learn their Mothers live in habitual Infidelity to their fathers, and their fathers in as constant Infidelity to their Mothers?" John Adams (Diary, 2 June 1778) Reference: The Works of John Adams, C.F. Adams, ed., vol. 3 (171)

Family & Marriage (From Heritage Foundation)

  • Today, nearly one-third of all American children are born outside marriage. That translates to one out-of-wedlock birth every 35 seconds. Of those born within marriage, a great many will experience their parents divorce before they reach age 18. More than half of the nation's children will spend all or part of their childhood in never-formed or broken families.
  • In 1960, just 5.3 percent of children were born outside marriage, compared with 33.2 percent in 2000. (See charts at http://www.heritage.org/Research/Features/Marriage/decline.cfm.)
  • Countless studies have shown that children raised in a two-parent family are less likely to be raised in poverty, less likely to do drugs, less likely to be criminals later in life, and more likely to graduate from and do well in school. Married people tend to take care of themselves better and live longer. They typically eat better, have more settled lives with less stress and fewer risky habits, monitor each other's health, and are quicker to seek medical attention for problems that arise. Married people, particularly those with children, seem to be motivated to save and invest more for the future and to live longer to enjoy their savings and their children's future. Out-of-wedlock births increase the national incidence of: lowered health for newborns; retarded cognitive, and especially verbal, development of young children; lowered educational achievement; lowered job attainment as young adults; increased behavioral problems; lowered impulse control (aggression and sexual behavior); and increased anti-social development. It's been said you need only do three things in this country to avoid poverty: finish high school, marry before having a child and marry after the age of 20. Among those who follow such advice, only 8% are poor, while 79% of those who do not are poor. The consequences of this trend are crime rates higher than they should be, graduation rates lower than they should be and a treasury depleted in the name of trying to solve both problems by throwing more money at them. No culture can remain healthy with illegitimacy rates like these. And it is simply impossible to understate the socially catastrophic consequences of America's crisis of illegitimacy. The family is still the best department of health, education and welfare ever invented. Investor's Business Daily


Maas. Chief Justice MarshallCreating "Special" Rights

 "Woe to those who call evil good and good evil" (Isaiah 5:20).

If Congress passes "special" Rights, they will amend Title 1 of the United States Code, to eliminate any Federal policy on the definition of marriage. (Sponsored by Homosexual Congressman Barney Frank of Massachusetts, who once ran a homosexual prostitution ring out of his home.) and also amend the 1964 Civil Rights Act giving "Special Rights" to homosexuals, by forcing every organization is America, Churches, Day Care Centers, Nursing Homes, Schools, etc. to hire gays and lesbians as teachers, coaches, doctors, etc. Ted Kennedy's S.1284 promotes, endorses, and advocates the very life style that killed Jeffrey Curley!   (YouTube Video)


Nothing Like a Mother's Love...

Secrets (good and bad) no one is telling about motherhood - By Suzanne Venker - Way, way back in 2002 I wrote a book about the domino effect that occurs when women try to raise children, babies and toddlers in particular, and pursue full-time career simultaneously. The subtitle of the book (which has since been re-released as “The Two-Income Trap: Why Parents Are Choosing to Stay Home”) was “Why Children and Most Careers Just Don’t Mix,” and its overall message was that the needs and demands of children are so great that to try and meet those needs and demands after being spent from a day at the office is fruitless.

   What’s more, it yanks the joy of motherhood right out of you. I wrote that book to help women who’ve been taught to map out their futures without giving any thought at all to how their lives will change down the road when they become mothers. Not only are women surprised to find out how taxing motherhood is, they don’t anticipate how much they’d want to be with their babies.

...In previous generations, women embraced this transformation and viewed marriage and family not just as the center of their lives but as the purpose of life. Modern women, by contrast, view a career as their life’s purpose and assume they can squeeze marriage and family in around this otherwise more pressing endeavor – if they squeeze it in at all.

   The problem with this plan is that by the time the average woman hits 30, the likelihood of her deciding that marriage and motherhood, not career, is the most important thing in her life is astronomically high. Too many women needlessly wind up in a quandary when they become mothers. Many are shocked to discover that what they thought was important before they had children feels utterly irrelevant afterward.


You can't put a price tag on the priceless contributions mothers make to the lives and development of their children. Motherhood has often been trivialized by those who suggest that women who choose to stay home with their children are somehow settling for less. They wrongly believe a mother's care is replaceable. Those with this view are not in step with the views of the majority of Americans. A 1998 poll found that the majority of Americans rate care by a child's mother as the single most desirable form of care for pre-school children. In a 2000 poll, 71 percent of parents surveyed believed they should rely on day care only if they had no other option. The public is on to something. Childcare, and the government's role in providing it, will soon be at the forefront of the debate over welfare reform. We would all do well to remember the old saying, "the hand that rocks the cradle rules the nation." FRC May, 10, 2002

A study by Brown University has found that children who come home to an empty house often get into a lot of trouble -- and while that information may not surprise many people, some may find the depth of the problem quite startling. About a third of the 10- to 14-year-olds studied were into anything from drug abuse to stealing when coming home to an empty house. Dr. Allan Josephson, professor of child psychiatry at the University of Louisville, tells Family News In Focus that family finances often dictate the "home alone" situation -- but sometimes it is by choice. "There's a cost to being a parent," he says, "and a lot of families might be trying to buy a nicer car and their kids are running the risk of becoming delinquent. That's something that parents have trouble hearing, that kids don't raise themselves." Moms in the workforce were just 1 in 3 in 1950. Now, by necessity or by choice, that number is approaching 80%. AgapePress.org NEWS BRIEFS. 

Proverbs 31:
1. The words of king Lemuel, the prophecy that his mother taught him.
2  What, my son? and what, the son of my womb? and what, the son of my vows?
3  Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroys kings.
4  It is not for kings, O Lemuel, it is not for kings to drink wine; nor for princes strong drink:
5  Lest they drink, and forget the law, and pervert the judgment of any of the afflicted.
6  Give strong drink unto him that is ready to perish, and wine unto those that be of heavy hearts.
7  Let him drink, and forget his poverty, and remember his misery no more.
8  Open thy mouth for the dumb in the cause of all such as are appointed to destruction.
9  Open thy mouth, judge righteously, and plead the cause of the poor and needy.
10  Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11  The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12  She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13  She seeks wool, and flax, and works willingly with her hands.
14  She is like the merchants' ships; she brings her food from afar.
15  She rises also while it is yet night, and gives meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16  She considers a field, and buys it: with the fruit of her hands she plants a vineyard.
17  She girds her loins with strength, and strengthens her arms.
18  She perceives that her merchandise is good: her candle goes not out by night.
19  She lays her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20  She stretches out her hand to the poor; yea, she reaches forth her hands to the needy.
21  She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22  She makes herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23  Her husband is known in the gates, when he sits among the elders of the land.
24  She makes fine linen, and sells it; and delivers girdles unto the merchant.
25  Strength and honor are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26  She opens her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27  She looks well to the ways of her household, and eats not the bread of idleness.
28  Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her.
29  Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excels them all.
30  Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
31  Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.

The Genesis 3 Key to End the War in Your Home - By J.D. KING - Conflict and stress between men and women began with the fall of Adam and Eve. Yet God subtly redefined roles to set a solid foundation for His family. Egregious things transpired in the Garden of Eden centuries ago. Sin ensnared the world, undermining the beauty and purposes of God. I don't think most people comprehend all that unraveled.
   When God spoke to the woman after the fall, He revealed that there was now an inherent conflict between her and her husband. He said, "Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you" (Gen. 3:16b). The ravages of sin had sparked a tragic war in the home. People who pledged to love each other would ultimately discover deep conflict and contention. What is implied in this passage is that, throughout history, wives will endeavor to control, but, because of their husband's brute strength and temperament, they will not prevail. In many cases, men will take advantage of circumstances in terribly self-centered ways. An honest perusal of history confirms that women have often been marginalized and exploited. Yet we should note that this was never God's intention. This was the tragic outworking of deception and sin, not the purposes of the Lord. 
   Whispers of Deliverance - Moreover, within this broader narrative, there are whispers of deliverance. There are subtle allusions to how peace could be found, if one cares to look. Delving a little deeper, we see underlying redemptive strategies in God's interchange with Adam. He says: "Cursed is the ground on account of you; in hard labor you will eat of it all the days of your life. Thorns and thistles it will bring forth for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your face you will eat bread until you return to the ground" (Gen. 3:17c-19a). It's easy to overlook what's actually being articulated. Most interpret this passage to mean that, because of the curse, men will have to agonize and travail to bring home a paycheck. But the Bible is saying much more than this.
   What the inspired text is suggesting is that men are uniquely positioned to take on the difficulties and conflicts of life. Because of their physical stature and temperament, men are able to carry duress and problems. Instead of exerting anger and violence, a righteous man "swallows it up" in acts of sacrificial love. In other words, a man allows himself to be a suffering servant for his family. He becomes a flawed reflection, but a reflection nonetheless, of the Messiah. From the moment sin entered the world, there was a war going on in the home. However, the pathway to peace is not as difficult as many have been led to believe.
   J.D. King, director of the World Revival Network and co-pastor at World Revival Church, is writing Regeneration: Healing in the History of Christianity. King is a sought-after speaker, writer and author. 

PARENTING AND MARRIAGE VIDEOS - Dr. James Dobson's 90-Second Commentary Videos

Wonderfully Woven, encouraging women to live with purpose. Wonderfully Woven is a faith-based online culture of encouragement and learning for women. It exists to provide positive, actionable information that empowers women to improve their lives and become all God created them to be. At WOVEN, we believe that every woman is an exceptional fabric weaved together by the love she gives away, the intelligence she possesses and presents, the problems she faces, the courage she musters, the skills and strengths within herself and from others that she can access, her unique personality, her creative outlets, and the faith she places in the God who created her.

Homemakers for America Founder Kimberly Fletcher says: "And I realized that the problem is that so many women are so busy with their families and their children, and we see all the things that are going on in the country, and we don't like what we see, and we want to make a difference -- but we're just trying to make dinner."

World Congress of Families Many national, ethnic, cultural, social and religious communities assembled to affirm that the natural human family is established by the Creator and essential to good society.

"One father is worth more than a hundred schoolmasters."
George Herbert

On Father's Day, 1988, President Ronald Reagan stated: "Children, vulnerable and dependent, desperately need security, and it has ever been a duty and a joy of fatherhood to offer it. Being a father requires strength in many ways...and more than a little courage...to persevere, to fight discouragement, and to keep working for the family. In that strength, and with God's grace, fathers find the patience to teach, the fortitude to provide, the compassion to comfort, and the mercy to forgive. All of this is to say that they find the strength to love their wives and children selflessly...Let us each take this occasion to express our thanks and affection to our fathers, whether we can do so in person or in prayer."

One-page Bible study on fatherhood (BibleTruths.net)

Patriot Post 06-25 - In our essay, "Fathers linked to healthy families"... we wrote about how important fathers are in the lives of their children, in part, by providing statistics on the woes of children who live apart from their fathers. Inevitably we evoke the ire of a few divorced men whose efforts to be good fathers is undermined at every turn by vindictive x-wives. To that end, we included the following notice in the essay: "Memo to divorced dads and assorted victims of feminist rage and unfair family courts: Please hold your mail, we know that women file almost 70 percent of divorces, most without any claim of abandonment, infidelity or abuse."

Needless to say, a few or our readers who fall in the latter category of divorced men, insisted on chastising us. Augusta, Georgia writes, "Regardless of your instruction that victims of unfair family law remain silent, I find your focus on father 'abandonment' on Father's Day abhorrent. The vast majority of fathers do not abandon their children after divorce. Rather, they are forced away from them by a cabal of politicians, lawyers, judges, and vengeful ex-wives who collaborate to deny the children access to their fathers on a routine basis. Fathers who do not pay child support are labeled 'deadbeats' despite the fact that most arrearages are the result of involuntary unemployment, disability, or similar circumstances. But mothers who deny visitation, relocate to sever contact, or deliberately poison the children against their own fathers are rarely, if ever, even sanctioned, much less punished."

You can't outsource fatherhood! By Mark Alexander - Consider these sobering statistics from the Centers for Disease Control, Department of Justice, Department of Health and Human Services and the Bureau of the Census: Children who live apart from their fathers will account for 40 percent of incarcerated adults, 63 percent of teen suicides, 70 percent of juveniles in state-operated institutions, 71 percent of high-school dropouts, 75 percent of children in chemical-abuse centers, 80 percent of rapists, 85 percent of youths in prison, 85 percent of children who exhibit behavioral disorders, and 90 percent of homeless and runaway children. About eight percent of children in married-couple homes live at or below poverty level, while almost 40 percent of children in homes without fathers live below poverty level. The latter group risks a much higher incidence of serious child abuse or neglect. Notably, the most common and severe wounds inflicted upon children are not necessarily physical. Children internalize emotional abuse and rejection, particularly rejection by their family of origin, parental separation or divorce, or dissociation from a chemically dependent or emotionally disabled parent.

Absentee Dads - A National Crisis?
By Sharon Hughes (June 2005)

Our nation just celebrated Father's Day. For many the day serves as a time for getting together with dad and granddad to honor them in some special way. For others the day serves as a painful reminder of the absence of a loving father in their lives.

Being a father can be one of the most rewarding and one of the toughest jobs on earth...and not everyone gets it right. Juggling work and family responsibilities takes some deliberate effort. President George W. Bush has determined to make committed, responsible fatherhood a national priority. Is this necessary? Consider ...

43% of U.S. children live without their father
90% of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes
71% of pregnant teenagers lack a father in their lives
85% of children who exhibit behavioral disorders come from fatherless homes
71% of high school dropouts come from homes without a father present
63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes
80% of rapists motivated with displaced anger come from fatherless homes.
90% of adolescent repeat arsonists live without a father
75% of adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes
70% of juveniles in state operated institutions have no father

According to Fathers.com ...

50% of mother-only families live below the poverty line
Teen girls from mother-only families are more likely to become depressed
Children from mother-only families do less well on standardized school tests
Teens from mother-only homes are more sexually active, and girls are more likely to become single-parent mothers
Teens in mother-only homes are more susceptible to peer pressure
Young adults who grew up in mother-only homes had a higher high school drop out rate

The bottom line is clear. Kids suffer without dad in the house, or from dad not being around enough to make a difference. If we were talking about any other issue, with these percentages we would call it a national crisis.

The Bush Administration has said about the importance of dads, "The presence of two committed, involved parents contributes directly to better school performance, reduced substance abuse, less crime and delinquency, fewer emotional and other behavioral problems, less risk of abuse or neglect, and lower risk of teen suicide. The research is clear: fathers factor significantly in the lives of their children. There is simply no substitute for the love, involvement, and commitment of a responsible father."

You may be a wonderful father, or had one, but there are thousands of kids today who don't. I want to encourage the men to be a father to the fatherless, which will not only have an impact on a child's life for the rest of his life which is good cause enough, but will as well impact our nation for good as the next generation steps into the role of leading in our country.

Sharon Hughes 2005

The Importance of Fathers in Children's Lives

Bush Administration Calls Strong Families Key

Sharon Hughes is the President of The Center for Changing Worldviews, and hosts Changing Worldviews TALK Radio which is heard on KDIA AM1640 San Francisco, KGDP in Santa Maria, CA, as well as online daily at Oneplace.com, and Thursdays on RIGHTALK.com. Her weekly column appears in many online and print news sources. For further information visit her: Website www.changingworldviews.com   Blogsite http://changingworldviews.blogspot.com Contact: sharon@changingworldviews.com

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