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Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6

For the children are not obligated to store up for the parents, but the parents for the children.  2 Corinthians 12:14b (PNT)

Scriptures concerning Young Children & Older Children

"The joys of parents are secret, and so are their griefs and fears: they cannot utter the one, nor will they utter the other." — Sir Francis Bacon

Parents - Are You a Yeller? By Dr. Meg Meeker - Kids who are yelled at by their parents are more likely to have depression and behavior problems, a new study in Child Development finds. This is no surprise, so why do a study?  I think we need studies like this so that academics can remind us parents to take our jobs seriously. I know that I do. Words cut deeply—particularly the words that flow from a parent’s mouth to a child—whether that child is 6 or 66. ...So when a parent screams at a child, the pain cuts deeply. Some parenting experts say that kids don’t hear parents scream because they tune them out. I completely disagree. Kids hear alright; they just pretend not to hear because they simply don’t know what to do with the hurt.

Boys and Girls are Different! (Here's why) - By Dr. James Dobson - The basis of our society hinges upon understanding that God created boys and girls differently as part of His master plan of creation. Any uncertainty or confusion on our part as parents on this topic will be damaging–not only to our sons and daughters but also to the long-term stability of our world. ...It is also important for us as adults to understand our own sexual identities. If we don't know who we are, our kids will be doubly confused about who they are.

...[Television talk-show host Phil ] Donahue’s feminist girlfriend and later wife, Marlo Thomas, coauthored a best-selling book at about the same time titledFree to Be You and Me, which the publishers described as “the first real guide to nonsexist child rearing.” It urged boys to play with dolls and tea sets and told them they could be anything they wanted to be, including (no kidding!) “grandmas and mommies.” It featured dozens of poems and stories about role reversals, such as a mother nailing shingles on the roof, building new shelves in the family room, and working with cement. Meanwhile, Father was in the kitchen making breakfast. Every effort was made to teach kids that fathers made great moms and mothers were pretty tough dudes. The book sold several million copies. And the movement had only just begun.
   Germaine Greer, author of The Female Eunuch, was even more extreme. She said the traditional family had “castrated women.” She believed mothers should be less nurturing of their daughters because to treat them gently and kindly would reinforce sexual stereotypes and make them more “dependent” and feminine. Greer also insisted that children are better off being raised by institutions rather than parents. It is difficult to believe today that her book offering those and similarly outrageous views also soared to the top of all the best-seller lists. That illustrates just how culturally dominant radical feminism was at that time.
   Perhaps the most influential of the early feminists was Gloria Steinem, founder of the National Organization for Women and editor of Ms. Magazine. Here is a sampling of her perspective on marriage and child rearing:

"We’ve had a lot of people in this country who have had the courage to raise their daughters more like their sons. Which is great because it means they’re more equal... But there are many fewer people who have had the courage to raise their sons more like their daughters. And that’s what needs to be done. We need to stop raising boys to think that they need to prove their masculinity by being controlling or by not showing emotion or by not being little girls. You can ask [boys] . . . “What if you were a little girl?” They get very upset at the very idea they might be this inferior thing. They’ve already got this idea that in order to be boys, they have to be superior to girls and that’s the problem. [Marriage is] not an equal partnership. I mean, you lose your name, your credit rating, your legal residence, and socially, you’re treated as if his identity were yours. I can’t imagine being married. If everybody has to get married, then clearly it is a prison, not a choice. (Steinem married in 2000.) All women are supposed to want children. But I could never drum up any feelings of regret."

   Think for a moment about the above quotes from Steinem, Greer, and the other early feminists. Most of them were never married, didn’t like children, and deeply resented men, yet they advised millions of women about how to raise their children and, especially, how to produce healthy boys. There is no evidence that Steinem or Greer ever had any significant experience with children of either sex. Isn’t it interesting that the media (to my knowledge) never homed in on that incongruity? And isn’t it sad that these women were allowed to twist and warp the attitudes of a generation of kids?

   ...Unfortunately, the ideas that were spawned in the seventies and perpetuated in a different form today are deeply ingrained in the culture, even though they have never made sense. Child-rearing practices have been forever changed. Many parents, for example, are reluctant or ill equipped to teach their boys how they are different from girls or what their masculinity really means. There is also a new source of confusion emanating from the powerful gay and lesbian agenda. Its propagandists are teaching a revolutionary view of sexuality called “gender feminism,” which insists that sex assignment is irrelevant. Genetics can be simply overridden. What matters is the “gender” selected for us by parents when we are babies, or the sex role we choose for ourselves later in life. Mary Brown Parlee articulated this perspective in Psychology Today. “The sex ‘assigned’ to a baby at birth is as much a social decision as a recognition of biological fact.”

   ...Clearly, there are serious implications here for mothers and fathers. I urge you to protect your boys from those who are espousing these postmodern views. Shield both your sons and daughters from gender feminism and from those who would seek to confuse their sexuality. Protect the masculinity of your boys, who will be under increasing political pressure in years to come. Buffer them from the perception that most adult males are sexual predators who are violent and disrespectful to women.
   It is also important for us as adults to understand our own sexual identities. If we don’t know who we are, our kids will be doubly confused about who they are. Any uncertainty, any ambiguity in that assignment must be seen as damaging not only to our sons and daughters but also to the long-term stability of society itself.
   Finally, I urge you to base your teachings about sexuality on the Scriptures, which tell us, “God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them” (Genesis 1:27). Jesus, who was the first Jewish leader to give dignity and status to women, said, “Haven’t you read . . . that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’” and, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” (Matthew 19:4-5). That is the divine plan. It leaves no doubt that the Creator made not one sex but two, each beautifully crafted to “fit with” and meet the needs of the other. Any effort to teach children differently is certain to produce turmoil in the soul of a child.

According to the CDC, DOJ, DHHS and the Bureau of the Census, the 30 percent of children who live apart from their fathers will account for 63 percent of teen suicides, 70 percent of juveniles in state-operated institutions, 71 percent of high-school dropouts, 75 percent of children in chemical-abuse centers, 80 percent of rapists, 85 percent of youths in prison, and 85 percent of children who exhibit behavioral disorders. In addition, 90 percent of homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes. In fact, children born to unwed mothers are 10 times more likely to live in poverty as children with fathers in the home. (PatriotPost

Why French Kids Don't Have ADHD - French children don't need medications to control their behavior. - By Marilyn Wedge Ph.D.Suffer the Children - French parents, Druckerman observes, love their children just as much as American parents. They give them piano lessons, take them to sports practice, and encourage them to make the most of their talents. But French parents have a different philosophy of discipline. Consistently enforced limits, in the French view, make children feel safe and secure. Clear limits, they believe, actually make a child feel happier and safer—something that is congruent with my own experience as both a therapist and a parent. Finally, French parents believe that hearing the word "no" rescues children from the "tyranny of their own desires." And spanking, when used judiciously, is not considered child abuse in France.

Coddling Kids Has This End Result - By PHYLLIS SCHLAFLY/EAGLE FORUM - For nearly a generation, American parents have been infantilizing their children, shielding them from failure, and passing the blame to anyone but the child whenever the child has done something wrong. Awards for winning have been replaced by participation trophies, depriving kids of the valuable life lessons that come with failure. Bad grades are blamed on the teacher rather than the student, depriving young people of the push to reach their full academic potential. We are just now starting to see what this coddling has done to a generation of young people as they go off to college. Not surprisingly, the results are not good.

   College counseling offices are now swarming with students who cannot handle the smallest issues by themselves. In one instance, two students dialed 911 and sought counseling after seeing a mouse, claiming to have been traumatized by this. Dan Jones, the former president of the Association for University and College Counseling Center Directors, hit the nail on the head when he said that "Students haven't developed the skills to soothe themselves, because their parents have solved all their problems and removed obstacles. They don't seem to have as much grit as previous generations."

   Another sign that American young people are not as resilient as they should be is the introduction of the concept of "trigger warnings" in classrooms. Trigger warnings are devices used to warn students when something that a teacher will say might be physically or emotionally distressing. It's time for American colleges to stop coddling students and give them an education that includes all-important topics, including those that are not politically correct. Students need to be allowed to fail so they can learn the lessons that come with failure.

Looking Back – By Thomas Sowell – (Excerpts) After my 85th birthday last week, I looked back over my life and was surprised to discover in how many different ways I had been lucky, in addition to some other ways in which I was unlucky. Among the things I did not know at the time was that I was adopted as an infant into a family with four adults, in which I was the only child. All sorts of research since then has shown how the amount of attention and interactions with adults a child gets has a lot to do with the way the child develops. But of course I knew nothing about such things back then. It was decades later, when I now had a son of my own that I asked one of the surviving members of the family how old I was when I first started to walk. She said, "Oh, Tommy, nobody knows when you could walk. Somebody was always carrying you."    … Although I was raised by people with very little education, they were people who wanted me to get an education. They praised my every little accomplishment when I was very young, and I was taught to read by the time I was four years old, taught by someone with only a few years of schooling herself. Years later, when I was promoted to the 7th grade, I was surprised by what a commotion it caused. Then I was told: "You have now gone further than any of us."


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Instruction & Discipline: Driven by love, not in anger or frustration, but in love, to provide a foundational structure and a moral compass for a virtuous direction in life. This parental love should override the emotional excuse of guilt, if a working parent. Parental obligations need also to reject "being friends" with their children when providing direction.

Children - Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
- He that begets a fool does it to his sorrow: and the father of a fool has no joy. A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her that bare him. Proverbs 17:21,25
- He that spares his rod hates his son: but he that loves him chastens him betimes. Proverbs 13:24
- Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. Proverbs 22:15
- Withhold not correction from the child; for if you beats him with the rod, he shall not die.  Proverbs 23:13
- The rod and reproof give wisdom; but a child left to himself brings his mother to shame.  Correct your son, and he shall give you rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul. Proverbs 29:15,17
(...Or perhaps as a parent you believe Dr. Spock and Benjamin Siegel M.D. possess more wisdom than the Word of God?)

In this message from August 1955, Billy Graham describes problems that seem hauntingly similar to those of today. And the answer to every one of those problems is still the same—Jesus Christ. (BillyGraham.org) - Many Christian parents are becoming fearful that they cannot properly train their children in this lawless and wicked age. We have received scores of letters in our office asking, "What is the answer? What can I do with my son? My daughter?" We are beginning to reap what has been sown for the past generation. We have taught the philosophy of the devil, who says, "Do as you please." Behaviorism has been the moral philosophy of much of our education in the past few years. Psychiatrists have told parents to let their children do as they please, lest in restraining them they may warp the children's personalities.
   We have taken God out of our educational systems and thought we could get away with it. We have sown the wind, and we are now reaping the whirlwind. We have laughed at God, religion and the Bible. Many of our educational leaders sneer at the old-fashioned idea of God and a moral code. Movies feature sex, sin, crime and alcohol. Teenagers see these things portrayed alluringly on the screen and decide to go and try them. Newspapers have played up crime and sex until they seem glamorous to our young people.
   Instead of publicizing the good and constructive things that teenagers do, we have played up the sensational lawbreaker. We have taught our young people that morals are relative and not absolute. At the heart of the problem is the failure of parents in the home. Evangelist Billy Sunday once said, "If you want to lick the devil, hit him over the head with a cradle." Parents today are not interested, apparently, in defeating the devil in the home. There seems to be little parental responsibility for discipline. Children are allowed to go wild.
   One parent said, "I pay for my boy's clothes, I feed him. I give him an allowance; what more do you expect of me?" Many parents do not realize that they are responsible for their children's mental and spiritual growth and character building, as well as for feeding and clothing them. If parents fail, God is going to hold them responsible.
   I want to give a few suggestions to Christian parents. First, take time with your children. Your children not only require a great deal of your time, but they long and hunger for it. Perhaps they do not express it, but the hunger and longing are there just the same. Love them; spend hours with them. Cut out some of your so-called "important social engagements" and make your home the center of your social life. God will honor you, and your children will grow up to call you blessed (see Proverbs 31:28).
   Second, give your children ideals for living. Teach them moral and spiritual principles of life. Show them that only the morally and spiritually right attain genuine satisfaction in life.
   Third, set your children a good example. A well-known story illustrates this point. It was the usual custom for a lawyer who walked to his office every morning to stop at the corner tavern for a drink. One morning when the snow had fallen, he heard a sound behind him. Turning, he saw his 7-year-old son stepping as far as he could in his father's tracks in the new-fallen snow. The father turned around and said, "Son, what are you doing?" The son replied, "I'm stepping in your tracks." The father sent his son back home, but that morning he couldn't go to the tavern; all he could think of was a boy stepping in his father's tracks.
When he was studying for his law case that day the boy's words kept returning, "I'm stepping in your tracks." About noon the father got down on his knees and accepted Christ as his Lord and Savior and said, "From now on I want my son to step in the tracks of a Christian father."
   Fourth, plan activities for your children. Plan things together as a family. Make the home so interesting and delightful that your children will want to stay home; then they will never miss the things that so many young people are engaged in for thrills.
   Fifth, discipline your children. The devil's philosophy is: "Do as you please." Children are going to be in society what they are in the home. The Bible, from Genesis to Revelation, teaches that parents ought to lovingly discipline their children. Ephesians 6:4 says, "You, fathers ... bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord." In Proverbs 13:24 the Bible says, "He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly." And in Proverbs 19:18, "Chasten your son while there is hope, and do not set your heart on his destruction."
   If you fail to discipline your children, you are breaking the laws, commandments and statutes of God. You are guilty not only of injuring the moral, spiritual and physical lives of your children, but of sinning against God. The Bible says that if you fail to discipline your children, you actually hate them.
The best way to influence your children is to set an example before them. Remember, the majority of children acquire the characteristics and habits of their parents.
The Bible says, "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it" (Proverbs 22:6). Now, some parents carry discipline too far, continually harassing their children. The Bible also says, "Do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged" (Colossians 3:21). Parents should never give unreasonable commands. Nor should they ever give a command that they do not mean to be carried out.
   Sixth, teach your children to know God, and bring them up in the church. Very seldom do parents have trouble with children when the Bible is read regularly in the home, grace is said at the table and family prayers take place daily. Most trouble with teenagers comes from children reared in homes where prayer is neglected, the Bible is never opened and church attendance is spasmodic. Christ gives the moral stability, understanding, wisdom and patience needed to rear children.
   Many parents are not Christians. They have never received Christ as their Lord and Savior. Church attendance, if any, has been no more than a duty and a ritual. Their children have seen the insincerity in the lives of their parents. They have watched their parents go to church on a Sunday and live like the devil during the week. So the children have rebelled against religion as a whole; they have turned away from moral restraint. Many parents are only reaping what they have sown.
Christ is the answer to teenage delinquency. Christ in the home, in the lives of the parents, is the only permanent solution to the menacing teenage social problems in America.
   If you are a parent, Christ can help you to rear your children in the fear and nurture and admonition of the Lord. If I were not a Christian, I would despair of my children in the moral climate in which we have to rear them. Get the Scripture and its principles ingrained into their souls—"precept upon precept; line upon line;" teach them "here a little, and there a little" from the Word of God (Isaiah 28:13). Get them into the habit of going to church every Sunday, of praying daily and of saying grace at the table. That will solve 90 percent of the problems you have with your children.
   If you are a young person seeking thrills, happiness and joy in some of these questionable avenues of pleasure, I beg you to come to Jesus Christ. Jesus Christ can give you the greatest happiness, the greatest adventure and the greatest thrills that you have ever known. If you will take Jesus Christ into your heart, He will put a spring in your step, joy in your soul and a thrill in your heart. Come to Christ! Jesus Christ is the one who can be joy and happiness and peace to all of you young people. I beg of you to surrender your life to Christ. But there are many of you who will say, "I would like to give my life to Christ, but I cannot live the Christian life. I have tried before but have failed." Ah, yes, but when you receive Christ, He comes into your heart. He gives you supernatural power to live the Christian life.
You do not struggle alone, by yourself. He lives in your heart to give you power and strength to live the Christian life. You, today, can give your heart to Christ. In Romans 10:13 we read, "Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved." ©1955 BGEA All Scripture quotations are taken from The Holy Bible, New King James Version.

In Defense of Spanking By Bryan Fischer  - Adrian Peterson was right to spank, but wrong to break the skin. The star running back for the Minnesota Vikings is in trouble with the law and with the NFL for spanking his son with a switch, spanking him hard enough on the back of the legs to break the skin. There are photographs of the scabs that formed on the places where Peterson hit his son hard enough to cause bleeding. In the mad rush to hang Peterson from the nearest tree and further criminalize parenting, we will hear voices arguing that spanking itself is a form of child abuse. It isn’t. In fact, the Bible indicates it is a form of child abuse to withhold corporal punishment when a child needs it.
   “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him” (Proverbs 13:24). In other words, parents should never say to a child, “I love you, but I’m going to have to spank you.” They should say, “Because I love you, I must spank you. I love you too much not to correct you when you need it.” The purpose of discipline is to turn a child into an adult, who develops the capacity to make intelligent, mature, life-affirming choices because he has learned that making foolish, unwise and disobedient choices only brings pain. That’s the way life works.
   The purpose of spanking in the life of a child is for him to connect disobedience with pain. He learns that sin is costly. This is why spanking should only be administered in cases of willful disobedience and not in cases of childish immaturity or accidents. Spanking is necessary because every child is a fallen, sinful, self-directed creature by birth. “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child,” says Solomon in Proverbs 22:15, “but the rod drives it far from him.” The writer of Proverbs, you will note, refers to a “rod” rather than to the parent’s hand. This may be so the child associates discipline with an object rather than the hand of his parent. Thus the parents’ hands are only extended to the child to comfort or to help. Many parents have discovered that a wooden spoon works wonders. Applied to the bare bottom of a misbehaving child, it smarts, it stings, but it does not wound or bruise or break the skin. And trust me, kids get the point.

Raising Kids in Just 18 Summers - By Todd Starnes - My dear friend Michelle Cox has written a novel that every parent in America needs to read. It’s called, “Just 18 Summers.” She reminds us that we have just 18 summers before our children leave home. Just 18 summers. “I hope parents will realize how quickly those summers will fly by,” she told me. “Take it from a mama whose sons are all grown now, someday you’d give a million dollars to walk down the hall one more time and tuck your children into bed, to kneel down and pray with them, to hear their footsteps and the sound of their laughter filling the house.”
   ...Here’s my interview with Michelle: Tell us about the event that inspired you to write Just 18 Summers. My pastor dedicated a baby at church one Sunday morning, and as the parents turned to leave the platform, Rev. Sexton said, “Don’t forget you have just 18 summers. Go make some memories.” The poignancy of that slammed into me—particularly since my youngest son was getting married a few weeks later.
   ...The first thing I thought of that day when I heard my pastor say those words was that I was glad we’d spent as much time as we did with our boys, but I wish there had been more. The second thought that hit me was to wonder if I had taught my son the important things he needed to know before he left home. I’m sure other parents can relate to that. I want to remind parents to enjoy the 18 summers before their children leave home, and I want to equip them with the tools and encouragement they need for the parenting journey, so on January 1, I launched the Just 18 Summers® parenting blog.
   ...Just 18 Summers isn’t a guilt trip, it’s a gentle wake-up call to remind parents that God has given us this precious gift—and those children will only be under our roofs for such a short time. What is the cultural impact when parents aren’t actively involved with their children? Families are the cornerstone of our society and we have a lot of repair work to do. You don’t have to watch the news for long to realize that a lack of parenting is having a big impact.
   ...You know, sometimes we as moms get a bit discouraged because we don’t see how God could possibly use our efforts as moms as we clean house, and change diapers, and do laundry—but because a mother packed a lunch with five loaves and two fish, her child was part of a miracle.  

DAY CARE BLUES - By BILL MUEHLENBERG - Over 30 years ago social analyst Peter Drucker wrote this about the rise and rise of Western daycare, “We are busily unmaking one of the proudest social achievements in the nineteenth century, which was to take married women out of the work force so they could devote themselves to family and children.” If he was rightly shocked back then by this development, his head would be reeling now. Today we have an entire generation of young people who are being raised by strangers, and not their own parents. While radical feminists and social engineers would applaud such changes, no one concerned about the wellbeing of children should.
   Sometimes a parent has no other choice in this regard, but far too often the wants of adults are trumping the needs of children in this debate. While adults at times may have a genuine need for the long-term care of their children elsewhere than home, this is seldom beneficial to the kids themselves. Based on decades of careful research on these issues, the simple truth is this: the younger a child is, and the more time he or she spends in formal daycare, separated from mother and father, the more likely that negative outcomes can occur. Indeed, plenty of studies have demonstrated the harmful results that such extended periods of formal care can have on young children. Consider one very recent Australian study which has once again confirmed all this.
   This is how one news item begins the story: Children who spend more than 21 hours a week in long daycare are at greater risk of performing below average in math, literacy and overall academic achievement, a new study finds.   
   ...A recent American study of 4000 children found that mothers who return to work soon after giving birth may harm their child’s school performance. The study showed that children of mums who work full-time struggled academically compared with those whose mums stayed at home. Educational psychologist Burton White, director of the Harvard Preschool Project, has written extensively on the subject of nonparental care. This is how he summarizes his experience: “After more than 20 years research on how children develop well, I would not think of putting a child of my own into any substitute care program on a full-time basis, especially a center-based program.”
   ...A system of child care subsidy could be established in which all parents receive benefits which they can choose to use as they wish. They could redeem it for care outside the home, or redeem it for cash if they choose to care for their own children at home. But something must be done to slow down this widespread unnatural and unhelpful separation of young children from their own biological parents.

Please Spank Your Kids by Joe Wurzelbacher - Recently, a California court has sided with a mother who was placed on a state child abuse database after spanking her 12-year-old daughter. She claimed a parental right to impose reasonable discipline on her child, who was slacking off in school. The court agreed: “Reasonable” corporal punishment is a legitimate disciplinary measure.
   ...Let me tell you, I was not always the greatest kid and my parents did what had to be done. They would talk with me, explain things and spend time with me and my brother. My parents were and are great role models but I’m here to tell ya I definitely got my behind whooped. Guess what? I deserved it. My dad was very serious about the whole thing. I would get into trouble, back-talking, or being disrespectful, which were both spanking offenses. He would send me to my room and I would have to wait patiently. Then he’d come in and explain why I was there, what I did wrong and what he expected of me in the future – often with a story where we would both laugh. Then he would stand up, take off his belt and I assumed the position. Afterwards we might talk just a bit longer and depending upon what I did to get into trouble in the first place I would either have to stay in my room longer or I was free to go. I never hated my dad for those spankings, it was obvious I was at fault.
   ...Then, like everything in this country, the liberals, academia and the do-gooders got involved. ...There’s no one to wipe your nose out there and if you ask me, kids who grow up with a lack of discipline are the ones that have been abused. ...Anyone who owns a business or is in a position to train or hire employees knows you’re lucky if you can just get somebody to show up on time, much less work hard all day for the sheer reason that working hard is its own reward. The entitlement mentality seems to have morphed into a default-mode for young adults in the age of Obama. Did poor parenting cause this? Yes.
   ...Which brings me to what I want to say: I was a service plumber for a long time, I went to lots of peoples homes and was amazed at what I saw.  I would see young children tell their parents no, and the parents did nothing, almost like they were helpless. I would see older children cuss and yell at their parents, and the parents would cuss and yell back or do nothing. Some parents would look at me and you could see the shame, while others really didn’t care and no, these weren’t bad parts of town. In fact it was quite the opposite – these were middle class, upper middle class and down right rich neighborhoods. Also from what I saw it was more white collar than blue…
   Side note, I never saw this happen in a house I went to where the children were being homeschooled. But before you go cuckoo on me, I suppose I have to say this: Am I proponent for spanking , Hell ya… Do I believe in Beatings, NO! Parents or a single parent seem to be more concerned with wanting their child to like them or being friends with them, or are too busy working two jobs to give a child the single most thing they crave: Discipline. Critics will quickly jump on that word and scream child abuse but you know that’s not what I’m talking about. Kids love discipline and I’ll give you proof which is easy to see.  

o Jeff Johnston Talks About How to Teach Your Children About Marriage by Bethany Monk - Focus on the Family has created “Teach Your Children About Marriage.”
The two-part booklet provides myriad ideas on how to model healthy marriage to your children. It also offers practical applications for children at every age and stage. And it’s free. Focus Marriage Analyst Jeff Johnston talked with CitizenLink about this new resource. ...For decades now, research has shown that children with a married mother and father do best physically, emotionally and psychologically. They’re less likely to get involved with substance abuse or crime, and they do better in school. Marriage between a man and a woman is one of the best ways to combat poverty. We care about children, so we want to promote an environment where they do best.
   ...You can’t assume any more that your kids will grow up understanding what marriage is — the union of a man and a woman. And you can’t assume they’ll know why marriage matters: It’s a foundational building block for society; children do best with a married mother and father; and healthy marriages are the best way to combat poverty and a whole host of social problems — crime, drug abuse, educational problems. So our team worked to create a creative, user-friendly tool to help parents understand God’s design for marriage, help them model a healthy marriage to their kids and give them ideas for talking to their children about marriage.
Christian marriages and families can be an example of healthy living. They don’t have to be perfect, but we can model how to deal with conflict, how to treat each other, forgiveness, working together — commitment and faithfulness.
   ...A large part of the culture has moved away from a Christian sexual ethic — it’s like we are a post-Christian or pagan society. Just look at some examples from popular culture in the past couple months: On Thanksgiving, Lady Gaga was featured on “The Muppets” singing with a drag queen The Macy’s parade had a dance performance from “Kinky Boots,” a Broadway show about a shoe factory that makws boots for drag queens On the first of the year, the Rose Parade included two men getting married on top of a float Just this last week the Grammy Awards broadcast a mass wedding — with same-sex couples If your children or grandchildren are watching this — say they’re just watching the Rose Parade — they’re seeing a gay wedding. Our culture is inculcating our children with sexual confusion and sexual brokenness.
   ...“Teach Your Children About Marriage” starts out at a real basic level, parents interacting with their children and teaching them that God’s design for marriage is a man and a woman, in a committed, permanent relationship.  

Raising Children of Light in a Culture of Darkness by Matt Barber - “I do not want to drive across a bridge designed by an engineer who believed the numbers in structural stress models are relative truths.” –R.C. Sproul ...I submit that “raising Christian children in today’s culture” and “training champions for Christ” are one in the same, and that both fruitful endeavors stem from the same rich soil.   Truth.   But what is today’s culture exactly? What is a champion for Christ? And, perhaps most importantly, what – or Who – is truth?   Merriam Webster’s defines “champion” as “someone who fights or speaks publicly in support of a person, belief, cause, etc.” It is not merely a passing suggestion that Christian parents and educators train champions for Christ. It’s a command given us by God Himself: “Start children off on the way they should go (train them), and even when they are old they will not turn from it” (Proverbs 22:6).
   ...The Apostle Paul admonishes in Romans 1:16 that we should not be “ashamed of the gospel,” but, rather, should “Do [our]  best to present [ourselves] to God as one approved, a worker who does not need to be ashamed and who correctly handles the word of truth” (2 Timothy 2:15).   In addition to leading by example, this means steeping Christian children and young people in the “word of truth” – the Holy Scriptures – and equipping them, in love, to champion (to “fight or speak publicly in support of”) the infallible, unchangeable and absolute truths found therein.   This is so even when the absolute truths of Scripture have become unpopular in a world that prefers the absolute lie of relativism.
   ...When the light of Christ is shined, it sends lovers of evil scurrying for the shadows.   For this reason, Christ warned, “You will be hated by everyone because of me, but the one who stands firm to the end will be saved” (Matthew 10:22).   In a culture that slaughters the unborn, mocks purity, celebrates sexual sin and makes a joke out of the institution of marriage by imagining sin-based counterfeits, it remains a daunting task for Christian parents to raise children with both the courage and conviction to stand unashamed for God’s truth. From an earthly standpoint, it seems counterintuitive to both welcome and find joy in being hated by the world.
   ...It boils down to instilling in our children a biblically orthodox Christian worldview – that is to say, absolute truth. Anything else is nothing at all. ...If steeped in scripture, children – even the prodigal child – may be pulled under and tied down for a time by relativism’s glittery allure. But when the relativist rope rots, fear not, for those who have been fastened to “the way, the truth and the life” – who is Christ – will burst back into the light.   And then what champions they will be.   

Christian Parents Try New Strategy to Help Millennials Grow Up --/Christian Newswire/ -- It's a question that nags at every parent: "Have I successfully prepared my child for life on their own?" Just One More Thing is a practical guide to help teens transition out of their parents' home and into the rest of their lives. When the Gudgels' oldest child reached his senior year of high school, they began to get a little frantic. "It started as an experiment," said David Gudgel about his book. "I wanted to make sure I had done my best to teach my son about the hard topics of life." So Author & Pastor David Gudgel wrote out a list of topics to discuss with his son over Saturday breakfasts throughout that year. Kind of a last minute effort to be a really good parent. According to his son it was a surprisingly great experience, so the Gudgels repeated the process with their other two children. Then others began asking for the lessons to use with their kids too. And the result was the book Just One More Thing: Before You Leave Home.

 

New Publishing Company Equips Parents to Teach Kids About Christ --/Christian Newswire/ -- Will we have wings in heaven? Will the boy in my class who doesn't believe in God go to Hell? Does God really have a beard? These are just examples of the many questions parents regularly get asked by their kids about religion. And while church and Sunday school can be a vital place for little ones to learn about God, do parents have enough resources to share with young children about Christ in the home? Graham Blanchard is a start-up publishing company founded by writer and educational content developer Callie Grant to encourage and equip parents to actively teach their children about the love and character of God. Grant, a former member of the Scholastic Inc. development team in Palo Alto, Calif., founded the company after struggling to find trade books for her young daughter to help nurture a firmer foundation with God in the important early years. It was then she decided to combine her knowledge of educational publishing with her passion for sharing God's love with children, and formed Graham Blanchard Inc. (For more information please visit www.grahamblanchard.com.) 

Bible ranks low as resource for parenting Allie Marin - OneNewsNow - A survey finds that while most parents want to improve their parenting skills, few look to the church or God's Word for guidance. The survey was conducted by LifeWay Research, the research arm of LifeWay Christian Resources of the Southern Baptist Convention. According to the results, 96 percent of parents said they try to be better parents. However, 60 percent of parents use their own experiences as the primary source of guidance when it comes to parenting. And only 14 percent said they are very familiar with what the Bible says about parenting.

D.L. Moody stated: "It is a masterpiece of the devil to make us believe that children cannot understand religion. Would Christ have made a child the standard of faith if He had known that it was not capable of understanding His words?"

Mark 10:13-14 - And they brought young children to him, that he should touch them: and his disciples rebuked those that brought them. But when Jesus saw it, he was much displeased, and said unto them, Suffer the little children to come unto me, and forbid them not: for of such is the kingdom of God.


Dr. James Dobson Delivers Clear Mandate for the Family - /Christian Newswire/ -- Dr. James Dobson capped his four-night, two-weekend, BUILDING A FAMILY LEGACY event with a ringing call to parents to be active, involved and, most of all, present in the lives of their children. "Culture flows like a powerful river, and it is extremely difficult to prevent your kids from being swept downstream into unknown waters," said Dr. Dobson, the author of 30 best sellers including The Strong-Willed Child and Bringing Up Girls. "You must not become distracted from your ultimate priority, which is to raise healthy children and introduce them to Jesus Christ."

PARENTING AND MARRIAGE VIDEOS - Dr. James Dobson's 90-Second Commentary Videos

Principles that help in parenting 1. Rules Without Relationships Lead to Rebellion Kids don't respond to rules, they respond to rules in the context of a loving, intimate relationship. It is much easier to establish rules, to pass on your values and beliefs, and to discipline, if you have developed a relational foundation with your child. 2. Kids Spell Love T-I-M-E One of the most important ways to communicate a child's personal worth is to spend time with them. When you are available to your children, it says, "You are important.” When we're not available, we are saying in essence, "I love you, but other things still come ahead of you." Years ago, my wife gave me a great piece of advice: "If you spend time with your children now, they will spend time with you later.” 3. Catch Your Kids Doing Something Right and Praise Them for It Instead of catching your kids doing something wrong and disciplining them for it, try focusing on catching them doing something right and appreciate them for it. So often kids tell me, "The fastest way to get my dad's attention is to do something wrong.” Expressing appreciation gives children a sense of significance. Our appreciation tells them they are valued, and their accomplishments make a difference to someone.  


'The most popular child-rearing book ever' is back! Practical guide to bringing up kids based on biblical wisdom © 2010 WorldNetDaily - After raising his own six children and learning many things the hard way, author and pastor Reb Bradley wrote a practical guide to bringing up kids that uses biblical wisdom as its basis. Entitled simply "Child Training Tips," Bradley's book presents common obstacles to successful parenting and solutions to help overcome them. "It's the most popular child-rearing book ever at WND," says Joseph Farah, the website's founder, editor and CEO. There was just one little problem, said Farah. The book kept selling out. But now it's back in quantities in the WND Superstore.  


Give ear, O my people, to my law: incline your ears to the words of my mouth. I will open my mouth in a parable: I will utter dark sayings of old: Which we have heard and known, and our fathers have told us. We will not hide them from their children, showing to the generation to come the praises of the LORD, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he has done. For he established a testimony in Jacob, and appointed a law in Israel, which he commanded our fathers, that they should make them known to their children: That the generation to come might know them, even the children which should be born; who should arise and declare them to their children: That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments: And might not be as their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation; a generation that set not their heart aright, and whose spirit was not steadfast with God. The children of Ephraim, being armed, and carrying bows, turned back in the day of battle. They kept not the covenant of God, and refused to walk in his law; And forget his works, and his wonders that he had showed them. Psalms 78:1-11


Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.Parents & Children: For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; else were your children unclean; but now are they holy. 1 Corinthians 7:14

The primary responsibility of education DOES NOT belong to schools. Don't let the indoctrination of your children bring shame to you.

And you shall love the LORD thy God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your might. And these words, which I command you this day, shall be in your heart: And you shall teach them diligently unto your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise up. Deuteronomy 6:5-7

And, you fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4

My, son hear the instruction of your father, and forsake not the law of your mother. Proverbs 1:8

Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding. Proverbs 4:1

He that begets a fool does it to his sorrow: and the father of a fool has no joy. A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her that bare him. Proverbs 17:21,25


Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman wakes but in vain. It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he gives his beloved sleep. Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate. Psalms 127

Making Space for Character in a Tech-overloaded World by Lindy Keffer - We live in a culture saturated by technology. The information, promotions, opportunities and noise it creates seem to fill in the cracks of our already-busy lives so that every waking moment is occupied. In the midst of the hubbub, teachable moments for developing character are often lost. But parents who are intentional about finding those moments can succeed at raising kids with moral fiber — and at creating small pockets of sanity in a tech-overloaded world. ...Our techno-gadgetry allows us to stay in contact with so many different friends that we're often guilty of ignoring the people in the room with us in favor of those we're talking to online or on the cell phone. Furthermore, we sometimes interact long-distance in ways that we wouldn't up close, and intimacy is lost. It takes some intentionality to ensure that real, high-touch bonds get maintained in an age of cyber-communication.

Research Shows Kids Learn Right, Wrong at a Young Age Josh Montez - Human beings' sense of morality begins early, National Public Radio (NPR) recently reported. In fact, researchers say, children as young as 2 know the difference between right and wrong. Dr. Judi Smetana, professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, is researching the development of children’s moral and social knowledge. “The moral universe begins very early for young children,” Smetana told NPR. “We are born with some very rudimentary sense of empathy hardwired in.” So is it nature or nurture that sets the moral compass? Family advocates say it’s some of both. “Kids do have a moral compass — even from a very early age," said Dr. Bill Maier, psychologist in residence at Focus on the Family. "The Bible says very clearly that the law is written on our hearts. “But children’s moral compass is undeveloped, and it needs to be guided and directed by their parents.”


Young Children

Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. Psalms 127:3

As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. Psalms 127:4

Your wife shall be as a fruitful vine by the sides of your house: thy children like olive plants round about your table.  Psalms 128:3

For he has strengthened the bars of your gates; he has blessed your children within you. Psalms 147:13

He that spares his rod hates his son: but he that loves him chastens him betimes. Proverbs 13:24

In the fear of the LORD is strong confidence; and his children shall have a place of refuge.  Proverbs 14:26

Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it.  Proverbs 22:6

Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. Proverbs 22:15

Withhold not correction from the child; for if you beats him with the rod, he shall not die.  Proverbs 23:13

The rod and reproof give wisdom; but a child left to himself brings his mother to shame.  Correct your son, and he shall give you rest; yea, he shall give delight unto thy soul. Proverbs 29:15,17


Older Children

Visit "Truth for Youth"If your children will keep my covenant and my testimony that I shall teach them, their children shall also sit upon your throne for evermore. Psalms 132:12

My, son hear the instruction of your father, and forsake not the law of your mother.  Proverbs 1:8

Hear, ye children, the instruction of a father, and attend to know understanding.  Proverbs 4:1

Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth. Proverbs 5:7

Hearken unto me now therefore, O ye children, and attend to the words of my mouth. Proverbs 7:24

Now therefore hearken unto me, O ye children; for blessed are they that keep my ways. Proverbs 8:32

The proverbs of Solomon. A wise son makes glad a father; but a foolish son is the heaviness of his mother. Proverbs 10:1

A wise son makes a glad father; but a foolish man despises his mother. Proverbs 15:20

Children's children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers. Proverbs 17:6

He that begets a fool does it to his sorrow: and the father of a fool has no joy. A foolish son is a grief to his father, and bitterness to her that bare him. Proverbs 17:21,25

Chasten your son while there is hope, and let not your soul spare for his crying. Proverbs 19:18

He that wastes his father, and chases away his mother, is a son that causes shame, and brings reproach. Proverbs 19:26

The just man walks in his integrity; his children are blessed after him. Proverbs 20:7

Even a child is known by his doings, whether his work be pure, and whether it be right. Proverbs 20:11

The father of the righteous shall greatly rejoice; and he that begets a wise child shall have joy of him. Your father and your mother shall be glad, and she that bares you shall rejoice. Proverbs 23:24,25

Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her. Proverbs 31:28


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